In the case of Linda’s relationship in regard to any association to Joy and Pickle, by Linda’s own words, I believe that is what you and a small group of individuals, in a combined effort, attempted. Although your attempt in “helping Linda” failed, it had the appearance of taking advantage of a known weakness and exploiting it. Had it achieved the desired results, Linda would have been lead to make a statement on the internet that broke any association with Joy and Pickle and would have resulted in you being the spokesperson for Linda. In my opinion that is manipulation, not counseling.
Sister, I have decided to respond to the above comment of yours.
1) You mention an attempt to help Linda which failed:
Linda came to us (three people) and requested some very specific help in regard to relationships that she had with certain people. [NOTE: I am not going to go into detail as to the specifics of the help that she requested. It should be noted that your comment is not totally accurate as to the people involved.] She outlined a plan and asked for our help. I considered the request and decided that I would have nothing to do with it. One major reason for my decision was that, as I told Linda, she did not need our help as she was competent to achieve her objectives without our help.
The plea for our involvement continued after my refusal to participate. My wife came into agreement and she encouraged me to re-think my position. [NOTE: Linda was well aware that I kept my wife informed in regard to what was happening with Linda and what Linda wanted of us.] I re-thought my position and I stated that I would respond to the plea for help from Linda if three specific conditions were met. I was very clear that all three conditions had to be met and that I would not participate if any of the three were not met. I was told that all three would be met, and I agreed to respond positively to Linda's request for help.
Hours before the plan was to be put into action, in a conversation with Linda, I was informed that two of my conditions were no longer a part of the plan. I immediately called the operation off. Linda had made her choice and that was O.K. with me. As I had told Linda in the beginning, she was competent to achieve her objectives without our invnolvement. She is/was competent and she had the power to do so. She had the ability to accomplishe everything that she wanted to do without the intervention of any of us. With this change in what she wanted to accomplilsh I was no longer going to be a part of it.
2) I assume that you have a copy of an e-mail that I sent to Linda on the morning of April 18, 2008. I shall quote my Beginning and closing sentences:
"God has intervened. God has moved upon the situation in a manner that you are free to disassociate yourself from . . .." and "Remember, God has accomplished for you today much of what we wanted to accomplish in the plans that were stopped earllier this week."
In my second paragraph I stated: "Linda you have a decision to make. The choice is yours. . . . No one can make this decision for you."
3) I am not going to get into a specific discussion, at this time, of what Linda wanted to accomplish or of the people involved. Your reference to Gailon and Bob is partial, it is incomplete and it has some implied inaccuracies. But, I am not going to correct you.
4) I would not charactereze the plan to help Linda as a failure. We responded, after much discussion, to Linda's request for help. We did not initiate that plan. In fact, I and another person strongly suggested that there was another way for Linda to achieve her objectives. The plan came to an end when I called it off because Linda had changed her mind as to what she wanted to accomplish. That was O.K. with me and the others. She had been told she could achieve her goals without us. She had made her decision and she was not manipulated by any of us in regard to the decision that she made at any time. With this change in her goals I was no longer going to be involved.
5) As I stopped from the role that I had filled for several years I left with nothing but best wishes for Linda. I continue to support her, but I do not do it in the same manner that I had done so for several years. I have continued to state that I do not believe that: a) she gave her husband Biblical grounds for the divorce and b) that 3-ABN treated her fairly in her termination.
Linda is a competent person, well able to make decisions for herself (and to accept the consequences of those decisions) and I support her in the right to do so, whatever those decisions are that she makes.
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