Alex, in some ways I understand you so well. You see I am the son of a homosexual. Not only that, but I carry the name of my father's dear friend. who later became my church school teacher.My father finally married and I was born when he was 40. His friend, Johann, never married. He was a very kind man, especially to boys, and there is no doubt I was his favorite since I carried his name.
So you see I learned early to read Paul with the eyes of a homosexual. Just like you are doing.
Much later, as I was studying the history of the early church and the development of Roman Catholicism, I also learned to read Paul with the eyes of a solid Roman Catholic. But through all of this I have remained a faithful protestant and a Sevent-day Adventist. For this reason I never interpret Paul with the eyes of a homosexual nor a Roman Catholic. The homosexual way I learned from my father is quite similar to that of the Roman Catholic. What seems so clear to you as a homosexual is blurred and confusing to me when I don't wear my homosexual glasses. I prefer reading Paul as a Seventh-day Adventist, and then he is completely clear to me - no confusion. And this is where I clearly understand those leaders of the Seventh-day Adventist who follow their own conscience and refuse to bow, neither to the homosexual nor the Roman Catholic rendering of Paul.
I might explain to you later how I discovered my father's homosexual understanding of Paul. But this is all for now.