No, I really was told that in 1881 a resolution to ordain women was voted by a GC Session. So I checked it out in the GC Session minutes and found out that that was the only one of around 40 resolutions that isn't marked adopted, carried, or approved.
It, like at least two other resolutions, was referred to a committee, that one to the GC Comm., and the other two to the Committee on Resolutions. The other two were brought back in separate meetings, one being modified, and were then adopted. But the one on ordaining women, I couldn't find anywhere where it was brought back to the session for a vote.
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This items shows how different attitudes make their evaluation. Yes, I agree with you fully that the resolution on the ordination of women was referred to a committee and was never brought back for consideration in 1881, and I also realize that someone made a misjudgment of the results. But I think you do ignore completely one or two factors in connection with this.
1. When something that was unbiblical or just not right was suggested at a General Conference Sessions, Ellen G. White would often make an important statement in connection with such resolutions. To the best of my knowledge she never made any suggestion that this had been a wrong solution.
2. Quite to the contrary, Ellen White later made a statements, which you reluctantly admit, that women should be ordained to do certain tasks, ministering in the church, etc. You insist on limiting those ministerial tasks to the work of a female deacon. You refuse to consider the Biblical pattern that deacons both preached and baptized (Acts), stating there is no record of female deacons preaching or baptizing in the Bible, only male deacons, in spite of the fact that Paul in 1 Tim 3:11 states that the same applies to male and female deacons.
I can well understand that if you really followed the Biblical pattern and what Ellen White in reality is saying, the Roman Catholic Church would not as easily accept you into their fellowship, something we all know is their goal. You might well have in mind saving your skin when that enforcement is introduced, and you might succeed, even if you keep your Sabbath. Even they permit people to attend mass on Saturdays now, so why not then too? There could be a possibility with that compromise, who knows?
So I wish you good luck, my dear friend, but I cannot guarantee the final results when the judge of all things appears in the sky. Perhaps He will have mercy on you too? I am not the judge.